If I've learned anything lately, it's that people see what they want to see.
Like, I am obsessing lately because my sister is having a baby shower next month, and I would really, really want to take a week off to see her and my family but also rest. But it's not clear yet, because even though I am unemployed as of today but still at my desk, there is serious worry that I will come across as not "dedicated enough." Even though I haven't taken off a week since Christmas, which is kinda crazy in Europe, and no one gives a fuck about the other PhD student who shows up at noon each day or everyone else who took off several weeks this summer.
As I said, people see what they want to see. Which I really wish meant I could then just toss off others and not care what they think in this situation, but yeah...
Btw, sorry a casual discussion of aliens turned into another bitching session about my situation.

Yes, I have a life. It's quite different from yours.