One of the IMO less savory things I've noticed about much of the current feminist movement is what seems like a total hate-on for awkward, geeky types. Which makes sense for the stereotype idea of the naive, misogynistic nerd... But that's a stereotype, right? Which means you shouldn't assume it's 100% accurate... Right?
I find myself in agreement with many, many feminist ideas. But seeing people like me being referred to as creepers and such, because we're shy and have poor social skills... That really sucks. Especially seeing as the men most likely to be creepers are the sociopathic ones who have
really amazing social skills, and will make someone feel comfortable right up until they whip out the ketamine.
Not that shy people can't do anything wrong, mind. But there is a world of difference between making people feel uncomfortable because you're awkward and ignorant, and actively exploiting the people around you. Shy people can learn. Sociopaths don't
want to learn.
(Okay, time to step off my soapbox...)
I wonder if the change in "personality" is driven by the maturation of the IT industry. Early in its history, I suspect the industry was run mostly by geeks, and they tended to be of the "reserved" personality (I speak as such a geek, though not in IT).
As IT has grown, I wonder if now the dominant forces in it are not the technical geeks, but the "business" types. Having had various interactions with them over the years, they tend to be more of the "bro" mindset. For example, I tempted at Bear Sterns back in the mid 80s and they were definitely of the rude joke school of business.
I think you may be on to something there.